Prohibited Area - Kolar

ಕೋಲಾರ ತಾಲೂಕು ಅರಾಬಿಕೊತ್ತನೂರು ಗ್ರಾಮವು ಬೆಟ್ಟ ಗುಡ್ಡಗಳಿಂದ ಕೂಡಿದ ಪ್ರದೇಶವಾಗಿರುತ್ತದೆ. ಈ ಕಾರಣದಿಂದ ರಾಷ್ಟ್ರೀಯ ಹೆದ್ದಾರಿ ರಸ್ತೆ ಅಗಲೀಕರಣದ ಸಲುವಾಗಿ ಗ್ರಾಮದ ಬಳಿಯ ಬೆಟ್ಟವನ್ನು ಕೊರೆದು ಜಲ್ಲಿ ತಯಾರಿಕೆಗಾಗಿ ಉಪಯೋಗಿಸಿಕೊಂಡಿರುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಇದರ ಪರಿಣಾಮವಾಗಿ ಬೆಟ್ಟದ ಪ್ರದೇಶದಲ್ಲಿ ಒಂದು ಕೊಳದ ರೀತಿಯ ಹೊಂಡ ನಿರ್ಮಿತವಾಗಿರುತ್ತದೆ. ಇದನ್ನು ನಾಗರೀಕರು ಮತ್ತು ಯುವಕರು ಪ್ರವಾಸಿತಾಣವನ್ನಾಗಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು ಈ ಪ್ರದೇಶದಲ್ಲಿ ಈಜಾಟ ಹಾಗೂ ಇತರೇ ಮೋಜುಮಸ್ತಿಯನ್ನು ನಡೆಸುತ್ತಿರುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಈ ಹೊಂಡವು ಅತ್ಯಂತ ಆಲವಾಗಿದ್ದು ಅತೀ ಚೂಪಾದ ಕಲ್ಲುಗಳಿಂದ ಕೂಡಿದ ಅಪಾಯಕಾರಿ ಸ್ಥಳವಾಗಿರುತ್ತದೆ. ಇದುವರೆಗೂ ನಾಲ್ಕು ಅಸ್ವಾಭಾವಿಕ ಮರಣ ಪ್ರಕರಣಗಳು ಇಲ್ಲಿ ಸಂಭವಿಸಿರುತ್ತವೆ. ಸಾರ್ವಜನಿಕ ಹಿತದೃಷ್ಠಿಯಿಂದ ದಿನಾಂಕ ೨೨-೦೩-೨೦೧೪ ರಂದು ಜಿಲ್ಲಾಡಳಿತವು ಈ ಪ್ರದೇಶವನ್ನೊಳಗೊಂಡಂತೆ ಸುಮಾರು ೨೦೦ ಮೀಟರ್‍ಗಳ ವ್ಯಾಪ್ತಿಯನ್ನು ನಿಷೇಧಿತ ಪ್ರದೇಶವನ್ನಾಗಿ ಘೋಷಿಸಿ ಆದೇಶ ಹೊರಡಿಸಲಾಗಿರುತ್ತದೆ.

ಜಿಲ್ಲಾ ದಂಡಾಧಿಕಾರಿಗಳು ಈ ಪ್ರದೇಶವನ್ನು ೧೪೪ ಸಿ.ಆರ್‍.ಪಿ.ಸಿ ರೀತ್ಯ ನಿಷೇಧಿತ ಪ್ರದೇಶ ವನ್ನಾಗಿ ಘೋಷಿಸಿ ಆದೇಶಿಸಿರುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಇದನ್ನು ಉಲ್ಲಂಘಿಸಿದವರ ವಿರುದ್ದ ಕಲಂ ೧೮೮ ಐ.ಪಿ.ಸಿ ರೀತ್ಯ ಶಿಕ್ಷೆಗೆ ಗುರಿಪಡಿಸಲಾಗುತ್ತದೆ.

ಈ ಪ್ರದೇಶಕ್ಕೆ ಹೋಗುವಂತೆ ಒತ್ತಾಯಿಸುವ ಅಥವಾ ಪ್ರೋತ್ಸಾಹಿಸುವವರ ವಿರುದ್ದ ಸಹಾ ಕಲಂ ೩೦೬ ಐ.ಪಿ.ಸಿ (ಆತ್ಮಹತ್ಯೆಗೆ ಪ್ರೇರೇಪಿಸುವುದು) ರೀತ್ಯ  ಪ್ರಕರಣ ದಾಖಲಿಸಿ ಬಂಧಿಸಲಾಗುವುದು. ಆದ್ದರಿಂದ ಸಾರ್ವಜನಿಕರು ಅದರಲ್ಲಿಯೂ ಪ್ರಮುಖವಾಗಿ ಯುವಕರು ಈ ನಿಷೇಧಿತ ವಲಯಕ್ಕೆ ತೆರಳದಂತೆ ತಿಳಿಸಲಾಗಿದೆ.

ಈ ಮಾಹಿತಿಯನ್ನು ನಿಮ್ಮ ಸ್ನೇಹಿತರಿಗೆ ಹಾಗೂ ಇತರರಿಗೆ ತಿಳಿಸುವಂತೆ ಕೋರಲಾಗಿದೆ

Alcoholic Husband

ALCOHOLIC HUSBAND

Alcoholism is a universal phenomenon. Down the centuries, numberless women across the globe have been coping with husbands who come home drunk, bash their wives and children and make everyone's life miserable. However surprisingly most women timidly adjust to their husbands' ways rather than raising their voices in protest. Maybe they have their own difficulties and ways of dealing with the problem but if your alcoholic husband is abusing you then it is time that you put an end to this evil and fight courageously against this addiction and save you and your family.

Guidelines for Helping Your Alcoholic Husband:

• Acquire proper attitude. It is difficult to help people who sense that you despise them and do not care for them and respect them.
• Alcoholism is an addiction to a drug. Therefore willpower is not enough; proper therapies are needed and consult a proper rehabilitation center or counselor.
• Confront your husband with the fact of the disease, and offer a possible solution. Alcoholics never get well unless given a chance. Make your alcoholic husband responsible for his actions. Every time you make excuses for him or shielded him, you have just paid for the next drink.
• Use all the alcoholism resources available. It is a complex illness; it needs a network of people to treat it. Take into confidence some of your husband's closest friends (non -drinkers) and ask them to persuade your husband to relinquish the bottle. Most men brush aside the appeal of their wives but pay heed to their friends' advices.
• Never give up hope; never be discouraged. Even if your alcoholic husband does not recover at this time, the seed has been planted. It may bear fruit sometime in the future.
• Alcoholism is a family disease; all family members are affected; all need treatment.
• Do not leave him alone. Always keep supervision on him. Accompany your husband to all parties and gatherings to keep a vigilant eye on him. If he is under supervision he will not to exceed the limits.
• Try to avoid the parties where your husband will be forced to drink by his friends.
• See that your husband's salary directly comes into your bank account so that he shall not hve access to money to spend on drinks.
• Try to find the root cause of the problem. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with him in order to gauge the root cause of his addiction.
• Once the causes are discovered, ways and means could be devised to solve the related problems.

Dowry Harasment

DOWRY HARASMENT

• In India, Dowry system that has been prevailing amongst every society and affected lives of the people who are involved in marriage and on those who are around.

• When Princesses of a dynasty got married, the King offered, out of overwhelming joy, a part of his wealth and his State to his Sons-in-Law in a grand wedding function. His Ministers also followed this regal practice as a protocol. The public in general, irrespective of rich and poor, followed this showy practice to maintain 'prestige' and felt great at par with the still rich society.

• This dubious matrimonial tradition however, seeped into the homes of the poor and downtrodden people to muster a false respect. By then there was already present a guilty conscious feeling of giving birth to and fostering of girl children. Also the growing percentage of female births over male children contributed its share to the corrupt system. The fact that every home having more girls than boys alarmed the elders make hurry the marriage of their daughters and created a ground for competition.

• The Dowry system has recently become so popular that every groom felt proud and gaudy on the number of items, weight of gold and amount of money he received.

• The parents of the girls too sighed in relief over gifting their sons-in-law with such things. They relaxed indebted because their daughters will be well respected and best treated by their in-laws, as compared to their counterparts.

• The daughters too take pride in grabbing so much from their parents and loose no opportunity to highlight their material superiority over other girls of their position in the family they enter.

• The less adorned daughter feels small of the situation and either quarrels with her in-laws or pesters her parents to give her more so that she could also gain equal respect in the family of her husband.

Effects of Dowry

• The aforesaid skirmishes within the family engulf every member and take shapes to different dimensions, such as division of families, separation of couples, divorce, endless enmity, court cases, loss of happiness, and personal feud.

• One could see the women acting like enemies of women in almost all the families while they start the talk of marriage. The boy's mother often makes the entire family silent by one sweep of her tongue in bargaining for the money and gold ornaments she would prefer her daughter-in-law to bring in and deposit with her.

• A few mothers argue that they too brought such things when they got married and a few rearrange the in-laws' ornaments into a give-away dowry for their own daughters, thus inviting trouble and unwanted remarks from the daughter-in-law and her family.

• Ponder over the plights of the parents who cannot afford to pay hefty dowry on Wedding that is demanded from them disproportionately, by the Groom's family or by the Groom himself. Due to the Dowry system the marriage becomes burden.

• The Demand of Dowry creates hatred towards female child and misguides the parents to kill the female newborns, instigate forcible abortions, develops cracks in the unity of the family, spoils good relationship between couples, ends in enmity, causes gas stoves to blow up, and brings death to the young brides

What Can you Do as a Parent

• Any family, which goes to get their boy married, must understand that begging Dowry is not an issue of prestige in the society but a curse to them and a sin committed by them. This would definitely lower the status of the boy and his family.

• The relatives and in-laws must stop passing awkward and degrading comments taking a moral responsibility to appreciate and adjust with any shortfalls resulting due to an expensive and delicate new relationship. Then only this devilish Dowry demanding practice will be curbed or routed out and many unmarried will have their lives simplified and scorn-free from the in-laws.

• While not opposing voluntary and proportionate property given by parents to and for their children - newly wed couples, everyone must abhor and oppose Any Demand that is put forward as a pre-condition for marriage.

• All responsible parents must encourage to discarding such an evil practice and making humble efforts towards the Noble Cause of getting their children wedded to live and lead a happy-married-life, with peace of mind.

Domestic Violence

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Within the four walls of homes, the violence against women is quite high. Domestic violence against is widely prevalent, but has remained largely invisible. Statistics reveal that 45% of Indian women are slapped, kicked or beaten by their husbands. (ICRW 2002) .32% had committed acts of violence against their pregnant wives. Every 60 minutes a woman dies in India due to domestic violence. Women accept violence because social norms sanction them. At the same time, cultural conditioning and economic dependence prevent the vast majority of women leaving their marital homes. Though there is criminal law to prevent domestic violence, the recent civil law "Protection of women from Domestic Violence" is aimed at providing relief, compensation and support to a woman.

Verbal and emotional violence:

• Insult –not attractive, not smart, doesn't respect him/his parents.
• Name – calling
• Accusations on your character or conduct etc
• Insult for not having a male child
• Insults for not bringing dowry etc
• Preventing you or a child in your custody from attending school, college or any other educational institutions
• Preventing you from taking up a job
• Forcing you to leave your job
• Preventing you or a child in your custody from leaving the house
• Preventing you from meeting any person in the normal course of events.
• Threat to commit suicide.

Economic Violence:

• Not providing you money for maintaining you or your children
• Not providing food, clothes, medicines etc, for you or your children
• Stopping you from carrying on your employment
• Not allowing you to take up on employment or
• Taking away your income from your salary, wages etc

Sexual Harassment

SEXUAL HARASSMENT

Sexual Harassment affects all women in some form or the other. Lewd remarks, touching, wolf-whistles, "looks" are part of any woman's life, so much so that it is dismissed as normal.

Working women are no exception. In fact, working women most commonly face the backlash, to women taking new roles, which belong to male domains especially in the organized sector. In the unorganized sector also it is widely prevalent. Studies have shown that sexual harassment is still endemic, often hidden, and present in all kinds of organisations. 40-60% working women face harassment at working places.

The problem:

• Subjects another person to an unwelcome act of physical intimacy, like grabbing, brushing, touching, pinching etc
• Makes an unwelcome demand or request (whether directly or by implication) for sexual favours from another person, and further makes it a condition for employment/payment of wages/increment/promotion etc.
• Makes an unwelcome remark with sexual connotations, like sexually explicit compliments/cracking loud jokes with sexual connotations/ making sexist remarks etc.
• Shows a person any sexually explicit visual material, in the form of pictures/cartoons/pin-ups/calendars/screen savers on computers/any offensive written material/pornographic e-mails/sms etc.
• It is sexual harassment if a supervisor requests sexual favours from a junior in return for promotion or other benefits or threatens to sack for non-cooperation. It is also sexual harassment for a boss to make intrusive inquiries into the private lives of employees, or persistently ask them out.
• It is sexual harassment for a group of workers to joke and snigger amongst themselves about sexual conduct in an attempt to humiliate or embarrass another person.
• If anyone displays too much interest in your sex life (or lack there of) and persistently asks you questions or makes remarks of a personal nature.

What an employer can/need to do:

• First and foremost, acknowledge that it is your legal responsibility to provide safe working environment for women free from sexual harassment and discrimination and that you can be held liable for sexual harassment by employees.
• Know that sexual harassment can have a devastating effect upon the health, confidence, morale and performance of those affected by it. The anxiety and stress produced by sexual harassment commonly leads to those subjected to it taking time off work due to sickness, being less efficient at work, or leaving their job to seek work elsewhere.
• Understand the reasons why women remain silent about sexual harassment. An absence of complaints about sexual harassment does not necessarily mean an absence of sexual harassment. It may mean that the recipients of sexual harassment think that there is no point in complaining because:
• Nothing will be done about it
• It will be trivialised
• The complainant will be subjected to ridicule
• They fear reprisals

Recognise the tangible and intangible expenses and losses organisations experience

• Costly investigation and litigation
• Negative exposure and publicity
• Embarrassing depositions
• Increased absenteeism
• Lowered employee morale
• Reduced productivity
• Decreased efficiency
• Higher employee turn over
• Erosion of organisation's brand names, goodwill, and public image
• Negative impact on stock price.

**What Steps Can women Employees Take To Prevent Sexual Harassment?

Identify/Recognise Harassment. Ask yourself the following:

• Do I agree to the behaviour?
• Does the behaviour make me uncomfortable?
• Does the behaviour violate my dignity as an individual?
• Does it violate my right to work in dignity in a safe working environment?
• Do not blame yourself. Don't ignore sexual harassment in the hope that it will go away.
• Do the unexpected: Name the behavior. Whatever he's just done, say it, and be specific. Hold the harasser accountable for his actions. Don't make excuses for him; don't pretend it didn't really happen. Take charge of the encounter and let people know what he did. Privacy protects harassers, but visibility undermines them.
• Make honest, direct statements. Speak the truth (no threats, no insults, no obscenities, no appeasing verbal fluff and padding). Be serious, straight forward, and blunt.
• Demand that the harassment stop
• Make it clear that all women have the right to be free from sexual harassment. Don't respond to the harasser's excuses or diversionary tactics
• His behavior is the issue. Say what you have to say, and repeat it if he persists. Reinforce your statements with strong, self-respecting body language
• End the interaction on your own terms, with a strong closing statement: 'You heard me. Stop harassing women'.

Eve Teasing

EVE TEASING

Streets, bus stands, railway stations, parks and other public places should be for everyone to access and enjoy. Yet for many women they are the scenes of harassment. Everyday women face systematic assault on their fundamental right to free movement and personal dignity.

Sexual harassment at public places is unwelcome, unsolicited behavior of a sexual nature including staring, gesticulating, touching, passing comments, trailing. These may not seem to be a big problem, but they can be quite upsetting. It makes women feel ashamed, humiliated or frightened.

How to deal with sexual harassment:

• It is not possible to have one single strategy to address this. It is important to make a judgment on the spot depending on the context.
• Learn to say 'NO' loudly and clearly. Prepare a stock sentence (like "Stop staring at me") and practise saying it to yourself until it becomes a reflex. If you are harassed, repeat it again and again till you feel confident to use in public place.
• Learn to communicate confidence in yourself. Look straight at people who accost you and speak clearly and calmly in response. Show others that you are aware of your rights and space.
• If you are in a bus the driver & conductor can be approached for complaints. As per law they should assist the victim by accompanying them to the nearest police station.
• Carrying with you safety pins and learning self defence techniques can be helpful.
• If you are being harassed regularly it is better if you inform the same to your parents/friends. It can be therapeutic and supportive. Many women face this problem and understand what you are experiencing.

What men can do to stop harassment:

• Don't do it yourself. Learn about the problem so that you become more sensitive to what might offend others.
• Don't cooperate with groups of men who harass. Act to frustrate or oppose harassment. Don't cooperate with harassment. Refuse to join in.
• At a suitable occasion, raise issues about sexual harassment.
• Show your opposition strongly
• If you notice a situation where a woman seems to be being harassed, you may be able to help her
• If someone is badgering her, you could go over and ask "Is someone bothering you?" If a woman in a crowd shouts out about being pawed, you might be able to voice a supportive comment to the crowd, such as "Whoever did that, it's not welcome."